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母性と父性(1)

 今日はいろいろと予定が入っていて忙しいので、書き込みができる時間が今しかないようです。本当はお洗濯の時間なんだけど…。

 最近いくつかの新聞記事に、反ジェンダーフリーについて載せられていました。ひと頃、男女の性差による差別をなくす動きが活発で、混合名簿とか、雇用機会均等法など、いろんな制度も誕生しました。

 …が、ここにきて、それとは全く反対の方向へ動いているというのです。

 何か新しい考えが出てくると、それに真っ向から対立する考えというのが必ず起こってきます。物事には常に反対のものがあるのです。これはEMDRで私もすでに経験済みです。

 私は、フェミニズムではありませんし、性差についてはどちらかというと中立的な立場をとってきました。脳の構造ひとつとっても、男女では明らかな差はありますので、それらは受け入れるしかないですが、その差が必要のない差別化を生まないようにしてほしい、というのが私の考えです。

 しかし、今回の記事では、ちょっと(有識者の集まりにしては)論点がずれているような部分があって気になったので、少し自分なりの考えを述べておこうかなと思います。

 その前に、

  「ジェンダーフリー」教育現場から全廃 東京都、男女混合名簿も禁止

 という記事があるので、興味のある方はお読み下さい。

 男女の性差までも否定する過激な男女平等教育の背景になっているとして、東京都教育委員会は十二日、「ジェンダーフリー」という用語を教育現場から排除することを決めた。学校での「ジェンダーフリー思想に基づいた男女混合名簿」の作成も、禁止する方針。月内にも各都立学校に通知し、二学期からの実施を目指す。このような決定は全国で初めてで、今後、各方面に大きな影響を与えそうだ。
 「ジェンダーフリー」は、その意味や定義がさまざまで、単純な生物上の区別や「男らしさ」「女らしさ」といった観念まで否定する極端な解釈もされている状況。

 ジェンダーフリーという言葉が正しく用いられていない弊害もあるとは思いますが、その背後には「女性は家庭、男性は仕事」という考えを強力に推し進めているグループがあるらしい、とは別の新聞記事にありました。

 さて、反ジェンダーフリーを掲げているグループが主張していることのひとつに、実は母子関係の重要性があります。男女の差別があいまいになって、女性の社会進出が進んだことが、母子関係を希薄にしているのではないか、という理論らしいです。父親と子供の関係については何ら触れられていませんが、とにかく家庭を守る母親と家庭を支える父親という役割分担を明確にすれば、家庭はもっと安定して良くなる、ということのようです。

 彼らが主張するのは、特に三歳までの母子関係は非常に重要である、ということです。

 これに関しては、異論はありませんが、母親が家にいさえすれば母子関係が自然と安定する、というものでもないのは、このところの虐待関係の記事を読めば分かることです。ある有識者は、それでは逆に母親を追いつめることになるのではないか、と危惧する投稿をしていました。

 確かに、幼少期に安定した親子関係は必要です。(専門用語で愛着と呼ばれるものです)これが、対人関係の基本になるからです。

 しかし、これまでの私の経験からは、子供と親が何時間一緒にいるかという量の問題よりは、関わり方、つまり質の問題である、と思います。

 英語では養育者のことをcaregiverと言いますが、養育者は必ずしも母親だけとは限りません。本当はいろんな人が少しずつ関わって、子供は育っているのです。

 一部の専門家は、非常に母子関係にこだわっているのですが、実は母性と父性とは別々に切り離して考えること自体が不自然なことなのです。なぜならば、子供が成長するには両方必要だからです。


 そして、今回の論点に一番欠けているのは、「人間は一人の中に、母性と父性の両方を持っている」という視点です。母親=母性、父親=父性と完全に分かれている訳ではなく、本当は両方ともあって、それを状況で使い分けているのが現実です。

 ところが、そのことが見過ごされてしまって、母親には母性を求めすぎてしまっているように思えます。

 これでは、いつまでたっても根本の問題は解決できないかもしれません。


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ジェンダー・フリー論争は深みにはまりそうで取り上げにくい事柄ですよね。あんまり母親と子供と密室保育のようになってしまうのも無理があるな、と感じます。私の家には三人の子供たちがいますが、観察するにやはり母親に期待するものは父親より質が違うように感じますが・・・その事でよく寂しい思いをしました(苦笑)

以前のコメント「長々」は言葉がややネガティブでしたね。すみません。全くそのような意味は込めておりませんでしたので訂正させてください。長い記事大歓迎(笑)。勉強させていただいています。

Posted by: miyashu | 2004.08.14 at 04:17 PM

miyashuさん、

 長々、というのは本当なので、ネガティブだとは思っていませんよ。いつも、読んで下さって、本当にありがとうございます。

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